Our family just loves the cartoon “Phineas and Pherb.” If you have never seen it, you have got to give it a chance. This past weekend, I was thinking about one of the episodes where Candice is determined to give herself a “Me Day.” Most of her summer days are spent trying to “bust her brothers” as they are building or doing something crazy and amazing. But, this day was different. While watching this particular episode with my kids, I began to imagine myself as Candice. She looked so comfortable and relaxed in her robe and slippers just zoned out in front of the TV. Why couldn’t I have a day like that? A day where I could just turn myself completely off. A day with no responsibilities and no parental obligations. A day that I could call a “Me Day?”
Then, I realized that I’m not a cartoon. I am no longer a teenage girl with a long summer break. Nor am I a robot that can just be switched on and off. I am a wife and a lover, a mother and a teacher, a sister and a friend. I am a child of God, an intelligent human being, a lover of all that is good. I am a blogger, an inspirational book reader, a gluten-free baker and cook. I am a movie critic, a ballerina at heart, a quiet yet quirky soul. I am a seeker of truth, an often overwhelmed thinker, a half-done homemaker. I am Me!
So, what IS a “Me Day?”
To me, a “Me Day” is a day in which I am truly myself. A day that is filled with everything and everyone that I love. When I get to the end of a “Me Day,” I have the feeling of calm confidence and accomplishment. I will have gotten up early to take a shower and make a large breakfast (something I did not do today!) I will have spent time in quiet prayer and devotion before my oldest heads off to school. I will have spent time playing with my children, connecting with friends and family, and writing notes of encouragement to my husband. I will have danced to at least one song. I will have eaten balanced meals and taken a walk to the park with my children. I will have spent time teaching my children something new and written an inspiring blog post. In the evening, I will have made a healthy and delicious meal for dinner. After dinner, my husband would have taken over the parenting for the day while I get out of the house. At the end of the day, I am in bed by 9pm for time with my husband. By 10:30pm, we have talked about our day and spent time praying and preparing for the next day. That would be my “Me Day.”
Most of my days, however, I would not call “Me Days.” Most of my days start out with me throwing on a pair of jeans and a t-shirt or sweatshirt. I get out the cereal for everyone to eat and quickly read through a Bible verse. I rush through my morning, fill the dishwasher, and start folding laundry. My 5 yr old and 2 yr old watch educational television while I take care of the baby. Once the baby goes down for a nap, I plop on the couch to watch TV with my kids. After a morning inside, we eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and take naps. Since I have not eaten healthy food or had any exercise so far, my energy level is low and I don’t feel like doing much. I sit down at my computer and have nothing to blog about, so I spend an hour or two watching a show on Hulu or browsing the web. The kids get up from naps and I’ve hit another low point. With the kids energy levels at their highest and my energy level at it’s lowest, this causes tension. I rush to get laundry and dishes put away before it’s time to start dinner. Since I didn’t spend any time thinking about dinner, I only have enough time to make something simple and high in carbohydrates. My husband comes home with no desire to take on the mess he sees and quickly heads for the couch after grabbing a couple bites of pasta. Since the kids have had no outlet for their energy, we spend the evening trying to relax while yelling for the kids to stop jumping around. We rush to get them in bed and calm them down. Exhaustion sets in and we both fall asleep by 9:30pm before saying a word to each other.
Normally, after a day like that, it is hard to recover. I quickly realize that turning myself off like that only makes me feel worse. It does not refresh the body or the soul when you have a day like that. In fact, being unhealthy, tired, and overwhelmed can lead to depression. Not what I’m going for!
For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Ephesians 2:10
We were not created to work ourselves into the ground. Nor were we created to sit around and do nothing all day. God has created us to “do good works.” Those good works generally involve being a servant to others. If we are not serving others on a daily basis, then we are not being who God has created us to be. That is how I see it. If I’m not being who God created me to be, then I’m not being ME! How can I have a “Me Day” when I’m not being who God has called ME to be?
Now, I have never asked my readers a real question before, and I’m not sure If anyone is even going to read this. But, I’d like to know. What does your “Me Day” look like? Try to picture a day where you’d feel the most like yourself. I would LOVE to encourage you to be who God has created you to be!